She believe she could, so she DID!

Alright everyone, time to get off your lorals, and get to work! Or to working out, or to finding a job, or to organizing and cleaning out your closet! I am serious! And I mean business. This is going to be a motivational post like no other, and here is why – I can’t stand complainers, I can’t stand people who sit there and wait for things to just work out for them or fall from the sky. Things don’t come to you on a silver platter.

Growing up I was surrounded by missionaries, people who taught me a lot of good things, people I am thankful for, people I am glad I’ve had in my life, but not everyone is destined to be a missionary, it takes skills, it takes training, and a lot A LOT of confidence. You can’t be snotty, you can’t be bitchy, you can’t reject the foreign culture. Unfortunately I’ve seen people like that! I obviously don’t stay in touch with them.

Now complainers and losers come in all shapes and sizes, so here are a few tips on how to identify one, or maybe discover one in yourself! After we identify all of the types, we are going to talk about how to get rid of the loser symptome!

1. Loser, who thinks he is a loser – You guys, it’s all in the State of mind. If you think your life sucks – it will, if you hate your life, it will bite you in the ass, it’s as simple as that!

2. Loser, who doesn’t know he is a loser, but everyone else does – that is the person whose friends talk about him/her after the person leaves the room. This is the person you roll your eyes at. This is the person who has been spoiled by their parents and doesn’t know how to use an ATM (I am 100% serious about this last statement)

3. Complainer who is always jealous – OMG she has such an awesome life, she has the looks, she has the job, she has the perfect husband. Oh we all know people like that!

4. Complainer who is ungrateful – They’ve got the job, they hate it. They’re in a relationship, they talk BS about their partner all the time. Not even seeing starving children in Africa can get this person out of this state!

5. Complainer who is also a loser – those people are doomed, and only divine intervention can help them – unfortunately, not even me with my bitch-slapping skills can get a person out of this state, I doubt that any professional health/care providers can.

Now what do we do about it? If you are a person like that, or you are surrounded by any of the above types – take action!

1. Start working out! Trust me – it always helps. No need to sign up for a gym membership either – just go for a walk or a run around the park.

2. Eat better! Yes, chocolate is good for you, but in small amounts. And by chocolate I don’t  mean Oreos, those are as good for you as lard!

3. Motivate yourself! You are headed towards a goal, a place where you want to be, where you see yourself successful. Here is how I motivate myself – I have a cork board with all the things that I want in life, and yes that includes money and movie star appearance, but i also have a whole bunch of cut outs with quotes about success, and how to achieve it! Remember my Marc Jacobs watch? I only talked about it like what? 10 times already? (okay maybe 2) I had a picture of it on my board for at least a month before i got it. And no I wasn’t waiting for a paycheck – I was waiting to use a coupon 🙂 Getting a 50$ discount off a 200$ watch is always worth the wait! Another thing that motivates me is comparison. And here is where you draw a fine line between comparison and jealousy! There is that good feeling of competition, and a bad feeling of – “Damn, that could’ve been me”. When some one is successful at work – I celebrate it with them! I don’t think about – this could’ve been my customer, or I could’ve had this sale – working as a team takes a lot growing up to do!

4. Think positive! You are not going to find $20 in the street if you don’t want to! I remember I once told my husband – I am going to find $5 today – that day I found a dollar, since then – I’ve found $40! You gotta believe in yourself! Some of you know that I have the “celebrity” syndrome. What the hell is that? – you say – well that’s when I dress up, do my make up the best way that I know it, and go turn heads in our small downtown Minneapolis. Do you know who is more proud of me then? No, not me – my husband.

5. Want to become a better person! It’s not only good for you, but for people who surround you!

6. Forget about fear! I know quiet a lot of people who are afraid to call someone they don’t know. I am related to one of them. Once I even had to call her University to find out some information for her. Jeez, what’s the deal with that? I called over 25 people at work today, telling them about our gift with purchase coming up at Clinique. Have I seen any of those people before? Maybe 2. But it’s my job to sell, and that had to be done! Plus let me tell you a secret –  they can’t see you over the phone!

Lastly: If all of the above failed – RUN AWAY or try some of these affirmations:

– You can’t find yourself – you can only create yourself! –

– Set your goals high, and don’t stop until you get there – 

Think highly of yourself, because the world takes you at your own estimate 

– The groundwork of all happiness is good health – 

Now to all of you who live off of someone else’s money – stop doing that, we all know what you are doing, and don’t cover it up with a “good” cause – if it’s good for you, it doesn’t mean it’s good for everyone else! Go face the real world and show us what you’ve really got, that way you’ll earn some respect!

No hard feelings,

doodles,

Z

PS. This post was inspired by real people, and even though some religious beliefs were involved in the original argument, I am staying out of religion in this post!